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Make sure I've known you for a while before you read this. If I've never met you, I'd prefer that you didn't. No offense, it's just real personal shit.



























I've known Korey since 2004. She's a wonderful person.

When I open with that, you can generally assume that the rest of this will not be nice.

Korey was a virgin when I met her. She is no longer a virgin, thanks to me. But the quality of the sex hasn't gotten better. I would go so far as to say it's gotten worse. I bring it up, and she says she's happy the way things are and doesn't want to change them.

I am very sexually charged. Before I was with Korey, I was with a woman who, despite her being batfuckingshit insane, was really really good in the sack. And I mean amazing. (I find that all crazy chicks are great lays, but I digress.) Because I am sexually charged, and because the sex took a big dip, I have become entirely bored with the relationship. She asked me when I visited last if I expected her to live up to the sex I used to have, and I said no because it really is unfair to want that. I lied to her, though, and I'd kill to have that sex life back. I will keep the details of it private - just know that it was a hundred times better than the one I have now.

She lives three states away, and she never really makes any effort to come out to Maine. I always spend the money to go visit her, even when I'm unemployed. Apologies to Jake and Aimee, by the way. I know you guys are really far apart and I don't want to sound like I'm putting my problems above yours. You two are largely why I'm posting this - because you have a long-distance relationship.

Korey is also incredibly introverted. She doesn't want any other friends but me, and that bugs the hell out of me. In addition to being, well, a pretty big freak, I am also a social butterfly. I will go anywhere most anytime, and hang out with people I don't know. In that sense, her and I are also complete opposites.

I guess what I'm saying is I don't want the relationship anymore. I have told Korey this, but she basically acts like the words never came out of my mouth. She's still really bad in the sack after four years of me showing her stuff, and has now put her foot down and said she's had enough. Last time I was down there, she tried to jump me and I practically pushed her off. I would be just fine with never having sex with her again. Hell, I don't even answer the phone when she calls, or return her texts, or answer her IMs anymore. I'm just really really fucking bored with the whole situation. It feels like all I do is give and all she does is take.

Help. Please.

Yeah, I completely ignored the, "If I haven't met you..." warning on this thread. Warnings are for total donks.

You have GOT to tell her, firmly, that you are finished with the relationship, and make sure that she knows that it is not open-ended. Considering she hasn't taken the hints yet, you may have to completely shut her out to prove your point. It sounds callous, but it's true. Sometimes, you have to make it abundantly clear that it's over, and the way it sounds, even an attempt to remain amicable in the future sounds futile, because she will still have lingering feelings otherwise.

As for sex, I'm not Dr. Ruth, but it's honestly impossible for you to expect two people to be able to compete on the same level in sex. You have to decide what's more important: emotional bond or sex. If you want true intimacy in a relationship, you'll need to look at sex more like the "No Child Left Behind" act instead of the Gifted class/normal class/dumb class. Ugh, this post took a bad turn, I can sense Michael Jackson beating off to the fact that I put sex and children in the same paragraph as I type this.

For me, the obvious answer is emotional bond, so it doesn't matter a ton. But it's different in others. And yes, even though I am STILL a virgin, I would say I am quite sexually charged. It's just different strokes. Gah, strike 2.

Basically, muting her ringtone (or changing cell numbers), blocking her e-mail & IM, and pretty much anything else that she could contact you through would also be necessary.

If you need a form e-mail to do this, I'll have Hyunsil make a draft. She's pretty experienced with being callous towards the opposite sex.

Strike 3.

Coming from a girl. I think it's safe to say that you need to put her completely out of your life like corey said. Chances are if you've been together that long she doesn't want to start over again and thinks things can improve, but sooner or later she will trap you with something to keep you with her. Imagine having to be with that forever... ehh I'd never be naked again.. haha.. Drop her, Ignore her, make yourself look like an ass to her... because she probably won't get it and you'll probbaly have to be mean.


Oh yeah.. I dont know you.. but man I do feel sorry for ya.. I hope it gets better.

Welp, I went and spent Thanksgiving with her, after not spending time with her for six months.

Biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig mistake.

We had sex the minute we got in the door. It was awful--worse than before. She can't do anything. We spent the rest of the three days, 23 hours and 50 minutes playing Rock Band and watching MST3K. I tried to drink the awkwardness away.

I have informed her that I don't want to date her again, or be put in a situation where we'd end up having sex out of sheer boredom or anything else.

This sucks.